What Happens When You Finally Surrender - And Let the Universe Take the Lead

Surrender isn’t about giving up - it’s about letting go of control and trusting the Universe to guide you. In this honest and spiritual reflection, I share how surrendering transformed my life, opened my intuition, and brought me back to peace - and how it can for you too.

The Illusion of Control

How many times have you tried to plan something or control it - only for it to go sideways? And somehow, it still worked out, didn’t it? That’s been a big theme in my life. I used to think that if I could just plan it, fix it, or muscle my way through it, I’d be safe. I’d be successful. I’d be okay. Control became my survival skill.

I’m a Virgo Rising, so control is a real thing - not to mention growing up in a family where everything had to be perfect just to be seen and respected. That idea got wired into me early: if I looked like I had it all together, I’d be loved, I’d fit in.

I remember being in college and literally writing out a timeline for my life. Start at the bank. Become a supervisor. Then a manager. Eventually get a job in finance and become a CFO by 40. And you know what? That didn’t happen. Not even close.

Because when I was actually sitting in my cube, I knew in my bones - this isn’t my life.

I used to have long conversations with my spiritual team during that time. It was an hour train ride to get to/from work each day, so I had the time. I’d sit in the quiet and tell them how unhappy and disconnected I felt.

They always said the same thing: patience.

But eventually, I realized I wasn’t just waiting - I needed to surrender. I had to let go of the plan. I said, “I’m open. Show me another way.” And they were right - I did end up doing what I love. But it only happened after I stopped trying to force it.

The Year I Was Asked to Master Surrendering

Each November, a birthday gift I give myself is a numerology reading for the year ahead. For 2025, the numerologist told me it was my Tower Year - and honestly, it couldn’t be more accurate.

If you’re not familiar, the Tower card in Tarot symbolizes breakdown and breakthrough. It’s the kind of year that asks you to reflect on your journey and release anything that no longer fits. Relationships, roles, old beliefs - whatever isn’t serving your growth gets cleared.

After that reading, I sat quietly with my spiritual team. They said something I’ll never forget:

“This is the year you master surrendering. You don’t just talk about it. It will become a way of life.”

And that’s exactly what it’s been. A season of deep letting go - not just in my business or spiritual practice, but in my health, my relationships, and how I see myself. I’ve been invited to surrender more fully than ever before.

What Surrendering Really Means

Surrendering is the moment we shift from fear to love.

It’s not giving up. It’s not defeat. It’s the decision to stop gripping so tightly that you’re cutting off your own life force. It’s saying, “I don’t have to control this. I trust something greater is guiding me.”

A Course in Miracles teaches that the ego is obsessed with control - because control gives it the illusion of power. But true power doesn’t come from controlling. It comes from remembering you’re already supported. That you were never alone. That the Universe, God, Spirit is already at work - even in the unseen.

And while the ego isn’t bad - it’s part of being human - it often acts from fear. When fear is driving, we can’t hear the guidance. But when we surrender, when we soften, when we choose love over fear… that’s when the miracles show up.

When I Stopped Forcing It, Spirit Stepped In

I remember in the early years of my practice, I was giving a reading for someone whose brother had crossed over by taking his own life. I wanted so badly to help her find peace, and I was trying to make sure I said the “right” thing. At first, I felt nothing but a sharp pain in my head and a wave of confusion. I later realized that pain was how he had left this world.

But the moment I stopped trying to control the reading - and truly surrendered - the message came through loud and clear. He wanted her to know he was at peace. And that he knew she had always tried to love him through his pain.

That’s the thing about surrendering - it creates space for Spirit to speak.

A Client Story That Changed Everything

I see this all the time with clients, too. During a session with Paul, I could feel his energy gripping so tightly to a story about how life “should” look - and the pain of that expectation not being met. I asked him to pause, breathe, and say the words out loud: “I surrender this. I trust that something better is unfolding.” In that moment, everything began to shift. Paul left with a practice that’s continued to support him in releasing those expectations.

That’s what surrendering does. It clears space. It softens the noise. It opens the door to something higher.

How to Actually Surrender

When I first started tuning into my intuitive gifts, I wanted to do it right. I followed all the guidance I received from my mentors. Took the classes. Read the books. Set up the crystals and the candles. All of them said the same thing: “If you just meditate, everything works out.” So I tried to create the perfect container - as any Virgo would - because deep down, I still wanted to feel in control.

But the truth? The real breakthroughs happened when I surrendered. When I sat in silence and said, “I trust you. I’m here. I’m listening.” That’s when the messages came. That’s when the energy moved. That’s when my spiritual team blended with me - and I knew more than I had words for.

Surrendering looks like:

• Releasing the expectation that it has to go your way

• Breathing through the anxiety instead of trying to control it

• Saying out loud, “I surrender this to the Universe (or You) because I know I’m being looked after”

• Feeling that energetic shift where the weight lifts and you just know — I’m safe

The key is surrendering. That’s your gateway. Not giving up - but letting go of the need to control every step. When you do that, the energy doesn’t hold you down - it becomes you. You feel the weight just release, and you know you’re safe.

The Moment Everything Shifts

And if you’re in that space right now - where everything feels uncertain, where you’re trying so hard to hold it all together - let this be your reminder: you don’t have to do it alone. You don’t have to figure it all out. You just have to be willing to let go.

Because the moment you surrender… that’s when everything begins to shift.

If this resonated, I’d love to hear from you - or support you through a session. You don’t have to figure it all out alone.